Did I handle this situation correct? Remember I'm trying to detach, cater, and do 180's here all at once.
Situation: I watch D during the morning of her schedule kids day so she can work. She tells me from work she is not feeling well. I just ignore and say I hope you feel better. In the past I would have instantly offered to take both kids so she can rest. This all happens around 10 am. She comes buy apartment to pick up my daughter and hints again how terrible she feels. I ignored it and started gathering D's things to put her in car. Hooray I didn't cave and she didn't ask for help and everything was all good. I head into the office.
5 hours go buy and I get a message asking me if I was busy. I said not until later and said why. She replies I'm deathly ill with the flu. She wanted me to go by her house and watch kids because she didn't want them sleeping over my house 4 days in a row (my weekend coming up). I said that makes no sense you need to get rest how about I just pick them up and they sleep here tonight. We went back and forth and finally they ended up sleeping at Dad's.
This is my constant dilemma. I'm trying to detach but can I really leave 2 kids with her when she can't even function or lift a finger. We have no other help. That is 1/2 our problem and why we are in this mess to start with. I waited until she finally caved and asked me for help. I did not offer help all day like I would have in the past. So that is my 180. I also pushed for the kids to come to my house. Detaching a little and standing up for myself. But I still catered and helped her because I do not want to be a complete A-HOLE during this process.
