These are all really good signs!! Your expectations are totally unrealistic. Your H is not going to say "NHmom, baby I love you so much, this was all a terrible mistake"
He is questioning what he is doing. I would highly recommend calling a coach and figuring out answers to some of the questions he asked. Saving your marriage is worth the money!!! He had a lot of interesting questions that they could give you the Right answers to
"""How did you expect me to handle all of this?""
He is saying How do you want me to handle these feelings I have. He has no idea as a man how to handle feelings. He might want to punch you but he knows that is wrong so instead he runs away. He might have sexual feelings for other woman but he knows its wrong because he is married so he is suppressing these feelings and running.
You handled these talks okay but you could have handled them better he is opening the door ever so slightly be gentle.
MAKE DINNER AND MAKE SOMETHING HE LIKES. You are in a good spot. Who cares if he googled divorce costs. Who cares if he stayed out till 1A? You are in a good spot he is trying to figure out how to come back to you. Be the woman only a fool would leave.
When he comes back, down the road we can work on how he treats S4 - one problem at a time.
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
