You did awesome in your responses (IMO)!!! I swear we married the same guy My H said those things shortly after the bomb, but not too much anymore.
I think it's a 'thawing' positive that he even asked: "what's worth saving?" To me, that means its on his mind- even if he's only thinking about the negative aspects of the R- at least he's thinking about it. (like those annoying commercials that you can't get out of your head- you complain about them- but they've done their job because you're thinking about their product!)
Have you read Crimson's post? He recently had a great experience with writing his WAW a letter conveying his feelings about their ditch, and even a letter specifically addressing the 'why did I have to walk away for you to get it?' question... I found it helpful to read his letter and how he handled the process. I've been considering doing the same, maybe something to think about if you get so inclined.
Mark today as a positive for you on the calendar! You kept your calm, you didn't escalate the sitch (even though that appeared to be what he wanted by continuing to pester you), and you weren't a doormat..... ALL good things!!
M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12
My H said those things shortly after the bomb, but not too much anymore. 