I just sat down and looked at the first week we will be in separate houses. Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday I will have SS, SD, and S from after school until almost 10pm. Part of me is really happy about that. It means three days with SS and SD I normally would not have. But part of me is concerned that wouldn't this all be so much harder on her if she had to find child care for those days? And then part of me says that if she has to do it, it will end up being one of her sisters... and I know I can provide a much better role-model and parenting than either of those two. Argh... just frustrated. At this point I am still coming down on the side of spending as much time with the kids as I can.
WHG - I see this a little different than you. The first 3 days of your WAW's time at her new place will be a lonely time for her since the kids will be with you. What better way for her to reflect on what she has done and all that comes with it, than to be all by herself in an unfamiliar place. Forced to ponder her future. What could be better? /sarc
I am grateful that we can still have moments like above. I don't know if it's good in the long-term or in the terms of DBing, but I know the kids like it. But it's still darn confusing.
If it's good for the kids, then it is all good. Even though you will be separated from your W, I think any opportunity you can share together as a family will be good for you, your W and the kids. I mean, how much time does your W spend with SS, SD and her first H? I don't think you ever mentioned that as happening. So, if you can make that happen on your end, then all the better, IMO.
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