I'm with you on the love from the board. I don't know how I would survive without it.
I don't relate to the smelling her clothes, W smokes so everything smells like smoke....yuck ....next R, no cigarettes!!
As far as his stuff, IMO I would move it to the garage without him, you control it, don't let him control it. Maybe seeing his things moving out will be therapeutic for you.....and also maybe a wake-up call for H.