I feel loved when I come to these boards... it's still crazy to me that strangers are my closet friends during this sitch!
Please tell me I'm not the only one who does this: smell his t-shirts. They bring a strange comfort.... I KNOW: I need to DETACH!!!!
I used to do it too. I don't anymore as the smell has worn off since he's been gone for so long
{I used to sit in his closet when he was deployed and would "talk" to him, while looking at favorite shirts and memories attached to them. I fell asleep in there a few times.... I know, pathetic, huh?}
I remember once I grabbed a jacket of is and it smelled like him. I startde to instantly bawl.. right there in the foyer of our house. I understand
I've actually started to visualize what my house will look like without his stuff here. It's bittersweet visions. I'm working up the nerve to tell him to find another place to 'store' his stuff when I get back from FL. I don't know what to do when he deploys for a year...
On one hand: He has made it clear that he's done with the M. That he wants his own place, so that defines *this* house as *my* house... and would I let any other friend move in all their cr@p while they are deployed? Maybe a few boxes of valuable items (I've done that for friends) but not everything they own- as if I'm a free storage unit.
On the other hand, H would have to get a storage unit for an entire year. This will get VERY expensive- b/c he can't just get one of the small ones. I want to take care of our financial sitch, so I don't want to force a new bill that doesn't necessarily *have* to be there. I've thought about just asking him to move his stuff out into the garage (so at least I don't have to see it everyday) and I don't use the garage for anything.
would it be easier on you to keep it for his deployment? Maybe slowely 'wean' yourself away from the stuff? Plus... wont it be hard to go wiithough? Can you afforc to replace it?
I've got time to think about this....but it's on my mind. Ideas?
