My Sitch/any better ideas than going dark?

[BFloat]

Just caught read up on you sitch and have a few questions for you..

You seem to go into great detail about your W's past and how you swept her off her feet.. But you seem to gloss over some of the initial problems prior to being married as well as when you were drinking.

What exactly does womanizing in between the two marriages mean? Were you dating her at this time? Also, what kind of comments did you make towards your wife that lead her to feel she needed plastic surgery? And while you admit to having been verbally abusive.. It's not clear what sort of things you said.

Although you may have been a great provider, it doesn't seem as though that is what your wife was after. She may be looking for validation which she may have found in OM. Sorry.. I don't mean to say she had a reason and that it was your fault.. I'm just trying to see her perspective.

While I was growing up, I was always told that I was beautiful and never lacked for attention from men. Yet I struggled w/ a lot of self esteem issues. I never felt pretty and to this day I wonder.. If i was thinner.. Or more beautiful.. Maybe my H wouldn't have left me. Foolish I know but.. It's the truth.

So.. Before we start focussing on how crazy your W is because you were so good to her.. And she threw you in jail etc.. Let's get the whole picture.

Not trying to crucify you.. It's tough love! I really do wish the best for you.

On a side note.. The nose piercing.. Maybe MLC? Maybe not. I'm 37 and after H left, I thought about getting one (haven't yet) because I want to feel a little bit more edgy and not so nice girl.. And to boost my own self esteem!