hope you love her, cause you're stuck with her now

[MichelleLT]

You know that bit about always remember to never use always and never? Of course I did. He is just focusing on the times I haven't. He also insists that he's only rejected my advances a handful of times over the last three years. I can think of more than 5 times in the last 6 months let alone the last 3 years.

If you've read SSM, when MWD says "In fact, they're noticing that for some people, sexual desire- the urge to become sexual- doesn't precede feeling aroused, it actually follows it. In other words, though you may rarely (or never) find yourself fantasizing about sex or feeling a sexual urge, if you're open to becoming sexual with your spouse, you will often find the sexual stimulation pleasurable and therefore feel the urge or desire to continue." That's me a lot of the time.

There were also times where I would have every naughty intention and the first words out of his mouth when we saw each other were the beginning of a 20 minutes rant about work or whatever. Total turn off. Needless to say, nothing would happen after that. I'd go work on dinner instead.