I give a lot of advice I need to take more. I also remind myself to practice what I preach more.
Yes I'm a better wife and mom than before. But I have a long ways to go. Reading your sitch helps me in some ways...and makes me grateful in others (sorry)
but mostly it reminds me of how much pain a lot of people are in.
I wondered when things were really heating up for us and I was freaking, just how everyone else was still functioning!
It hit me that there are SO MANY WALKING WOUNDED out there...there must be, b/c divorce happens a lot...
When it hit me that I was not alone, aside from my "misery loves company" -"joy"
I found myself very moved with compassion for a lot of perfect strangers. I met a man at a professional meeting one night in the peak crazy time for me--
and he mentioned his "ex wife or soon to be"...and I probed and he told me his story and it was SO SAD -
a 6 year nightmare about to finally end, and he was still shell shocked--
I literally could not believe he could go to work and operate on people, or attend the meeting (I barely could)...lucky for him I think his work helped.
My point is we all backslide....we all fall short.
But if you have some trusted peeps to keep you in line,
you get back up again and dust yourself off...and you move forward again.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016