WHG: Chasing that rabbit with the pocketwatch

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Hugs to you WHG. I know it's hard with her packing but right now is the critical time to do the 180 and GAL. If she sees you go back to your old ways or beg her to stay, she'll pack faster. Maybe the best thing you can do for her and your sitch is let her move out and struggle on her own without you there to help with finances, the kids, etc. A dose or reality in the world alone has woken up more than one WAS.

This is my 2nd M that I have used DB in. The first one wasn't successful obviously but not because I didn't DB the heck out of it... just did it too late. When my XH moved his stuff out I was a complete basketcase. I cried. Didn't beg, but did ask him to reconsider. He kept packing, with a smile on his face, excited about his new life and not one bit of guilt. So I thought. Later (we reconciled months later once for a few weeks) he admitted it was one of the hardest days of his life but he was afraid of things going back to how they were so he felt he had to leave. My point is... don't let their act fool you. She is putting on a brave face too but she feels it's something she has to do. Let her. And let her wonder why you are smiling, GAL, moving on and not mourning her. That's so much more attractive.

And from a WAW POV... As someone so fed up with my H and wondering if things will ever change, I've got one foot out the door and have looked at rentals, packed, etc. The only thing making me stay right now is his changes, attempts to change. If he goes back to being the guy I want to run from, I'm gone.

Hold steady. You can do it, WHG. If you can get through V day and her moving, you will have made it through the worst. The rest is just paperwork, if that's how it heads. But if you keep with your changes and GAL, you have a chance here. Don't let it slip away.