Ok, how about something like sending an email seeking her advice on some parenting issue you are dealing with. Or if you see her struggling with some parental matter, acknowledging that you see she is struggling and extending an offer of help.
I think you need to approach from a totally neutral, non-blaming angle in order to avoid any defencive reaction.
Say something like, "Ex, I'm having trouble handling this "fill in the blank" situation and wonder if you have any ideas on how I can solve this problem". Or, "I noticed that X happened the other day and was wondering what you were thinking about how we could solve this to our mutual benefit".
Just some little ice breakers to get the ball rolling that can eventually lead to a larger conversation about co-parenting.
Does this help?
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