My "OM" lives less than a mile from our house too...so H knows he is close by.
Plus, I think H believes my new "relationship" is a lot more than it is (probably based on his crazy affair). I figure it's fine if his imagination is running wild. He told me he imagined I was up all night with "OM". :-)
I would never have wanted this to happen until now when I really feel like I was ready to be done.
M 44, H 46 D11, D9, D5 Married 12 years PA confirmed 9/2011 I filed 3/2012 H moved out 7/2012