What Do I Do? Help!

[leopoldstotch]

Well today started out well,lol. As my W was getting ready for work this morning I asked if the gym was crowded last night and she told me she went to a Zumba class. I asked how much that cost and she said 20 sessions for $100. So I said spending money we don't have to which she brought up my spending. Now keep in mind that it was two weeks ago that I got chewed out for taking $40 out the account for a GAL activity. She basically told me to stop talking to her which I did. For the life of me I can't wrap my head around how it's ok for her to spend money but it's not ok for me.

I'm really beginning to feel as though my W thinks she can do as she pleases since she thinks/knows I want to work things out but I'm growing very tired of the double standard and I feel like I'm being totally disrespected. So I need some thoughts on if I should bring up the fact that I feel she is disrespecting me and that it's not ok for her to treat me like a child when it comes to the finances and it's ok for her to do whatever without me saying a word about her spending? It would be a 180 for me to stand up for myself but without arguing and handling it like an adult. This whole situation has had me in a state of disbelief. Thoughts?