I salute you for hanging in there even with the knowledge that there is indeed OM. I could not and would not do that - btw I don not see my stance on that as a good thing.
The dating thing. I did that too. Man, it was awesome to see all the emails and "winks" I was getting. I even went on a date. Guess what? It svcked!It svcked because we are not ready yet I promise you. Mine lasted twenty minutes before I excused myself, apologized, and went home. My date took it pretty hard too. Don't do it. If you really think you must, be TOTALLY forthcoming and tell this person what is going on in your life before you actually meet her in person. Devil's Advocate for a second_ if you do this and you still hit it off as friends, maybe that's what you need to let your W go. However, as long as you still carry the fire for your W, do not get involved with OW. I did and it was counter productive and set me back emotionally.
Thank you for the insight I will definitely rethink this. I am the type of person to be honest and upfront with someone I would meet. Just how I am.
M37 W34 S6 D3 M8yrs T14 S 1year Told me she doesn't want to be married 10/2011 "I will never stop trying because when you find the ONE, you never give up." Steve Carrell Crazy, stupid, Love