Hi fireman, I agree with rick. Get the DR book and read it. Also, keep posting. Once you have enough clean posts under your belt, you will be off moderation and your posts will appear immediately.
Journal, vent, ask for support and ask questions. We are all just as interested in you, to see your M succeed.
Do understand that once the D is in motion, it will keep moving until your W stops it. It is not over until it is over, and you can slow the process down a bit by ensuring due diligence, which means that anything handed to you should not be responded to until the last minute, so that you haven't missed anything that may be important.
You would not slow things down to manipulate your W nor as a tactic to win her back. But due diligence will spread things out longer and perhaps your W only filed out of revenge and may change her mind. Which means that RIGHT NOW, you begin to work on yourself and become a better man that your W might trust again and might work with to rebuild the M.
