Read this on Molly V.'s thread, and needed to post it here for myself.
1) make changes in yourself that YOU want to make, no matter what 2) face whatever comes w/dignity and grace. You will make it to the other shore...HE's there for you, as we are, and all your friends and family who love you.
I need to remember this on the days like today when I feel like the world is on my shoulders.
But if my h died and I were done grieving, I know I'd be happy again. If h left me and stayed gone, I know I'd eventually be happy again.
So profound...I need to hear this...OVER, AND OVER AGAIN!
Your consistent changes + sufficient time passing = changes HE can believe in.
You have been given a gift. The gift of TIME under the same roof. Yes it's hard in many ways--tension or stressful...
but it's the 4-5 months you have, to change your ways consistently.
and NOT point them out or highlight them...just make the changes and let them radiate. Believe in the new you and it will show.
You may have to ACT like an Academy Award winner, but you can do it. Fake it til you make it.
NO pursuing/No guilting/No arguments FOR the marriage...
I need to take more acting classes, because right now I suck at this. I'm still running out of the room so he won't see my tears.
When you operate in fear, you are NOT operating in faith.
If you are a believer, then remember that^^^ statement...and have some faith.
He will guide you. HE will strengthen you and you will survive this crisis.
It's not eternal. It's not fatal. But you must take care of yourself.
Take a breath, say a prayer and believe you will be alright, b/c you will.
