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Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4 purgatory #2216048 01/26/12 04:22 PM
Joined: Dec 2011 Posts: 322 J Jenna333 Member
Jenna333 Member J Joined: Dec 2011 Posts: 322	Wow, you have so much support on here! You said this: "Only 2 months ago, he was ML to me and telling me that he loved me, he was telling me that even though things were rough- he was happy to see how hard I was trying, and proud of the changes I had made.... how does THAT go to: I love you, but not in love?!?!" I can so relate 1 week before J left me he said he wasn't going to leave! It's hard to face that they were feeling this way long before they made us aware of it. I was in denial of that for a while. Then I reflected and now I can see the signs that were there. You ARE powerless to stop your H and ex-BFF from seeing each other, legal separation or not. You're powerless from stopping anyone from doing anything--except yourself. I am a person that has tried to control everyone around me (not out of malice) my entire life. I've learned that you can't control anyone but yourself. I tried controlling J for so long. It breeds resentment Anyway, just rambling, sorry! I don't know if you have control issues or not. I guess I just wanted to tell you to please not look at the separation papers as a permission slip, even if that's how your H sees them. It sounds like they've been emotionally involved for a while now already. There's nothing you could have done/can do about it. I don't know about you, but I've ironically come to view that I can't control anyone as very freeing. A lot of it has to do with detaching. I don't obsess about what J is up to as much anymore. It's not my concern. Not seeing him as much has helped. Sorry if most of that doesn't apply to you. This is a time when a verbal conversation would make more sense! M & H 25 T 9 D 7 S 4 Bomb 11/11 Confused about feelings for me. Bomb 12/11 ILYBNILWY, moved out 2-1-12 We're exclusive & dating each other. 3-4-12 H moved back in. 3-31-12 I deserve better. I'm done

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Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/21/12 11:28 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/22/12 02:22 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	labug	01/22/12 02:30 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/22/12 03:39 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/22/12 04:11 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	mr mr	01/22/12 04:24 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/22/12 04:32 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	ces67	01/22/12 06:36 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/22/12 04:28 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	WenikiTiki	01/22/12 05:09 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/22/12 07:47 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/22/12 08:13 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/22/12 08:55 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/23/12 01:12 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	JamesG	01/23/12 01:27 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/23/12 03:54 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/23/12 05:13 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Rick1963	01/23/12 10:52 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Hopeful321	01/23/12 12:45 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	ces67	01/23/12 01:17 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Crimson	01/23/12 02:13 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	stillhopin	01/23/12 08:32 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	WenikiTiki	01/23/12 11:14 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 01:52 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 02:29 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	nhmom	01/24/12 02:50 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/24/12 02:51 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 03:02 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 03:07 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/24/12 05:03 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 05:27 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/24/12 06:28 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 12:39 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/24/12 12:44 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/24/12 01:16 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	sayitaintso	01/24/12 03:28 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BklynMom	01/24/12 03:48 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Autumn Leaves	01/24/12 03:53 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Rick1963	01/24/12 04:01 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 05:44 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/24/12 06:10 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Crimson	01/24/12 06:12 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/24/12 06:15 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 07:22 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BklynMom	01/24/12 07:51 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 08:24 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/24/12 09:03 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/24/12 10:01 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/25/12 12:15 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/25/12 01:28 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/25/12 03:39 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BklynMom	01/25/12 03:52 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/25/12 04:32 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/25/12 08:04 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	ces67	01/25/12 01:50 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Jenna333	01/25/12 04:44 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/25/12 05:05 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/25/12 04:47 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Jenna333	01/25/12 05:02 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/25/12 05:07 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/25/12 07:58 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/25/12 09:44 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/25/12 09:56 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/26/12 02:15 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	nhmom	01/26/12 02:29 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/26/12 03:16 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	mr mr	01/26/12 03:23 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/26/12 03:37 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/26/12 04:54 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	WenikiTiki	01/26/12 07:17 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/26/12 12:25 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BklynMom	01/26/12 01:18 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/26/12 01:19 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/26/12 02:30 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Jenna333	01/26/12 04:22 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/26/12 09:00 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/26/12 09:50 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/26/12 10:03 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/27/12 12:36 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/27/12 01:18 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/27/12 01:20 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/27/12 01:28 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	mr mr	01/27/12 01:59 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/27/12 03:12 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	ces67	01/27/12 12:51 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/27/12 01:33 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/27/12 01:56 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	ces67	01/27/12 02:37 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	labug	01/27/12 03:12 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/27/12 06:42 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	JamesG	01/27/12 06:47 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/27/12 10:36 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/27/12 10:54 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/27/12 11:25 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	labug	01/27/12 11:47 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/27/12 11:48 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/28/12 02:45 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	ces67	01/28/12 02:51 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/28/12 03:49 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Jenna333	01/28/12 04:13 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/28/12 04:56 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/28/12 06:12 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	labug	01/28/12 01:46 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/28/12 03:39 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Jenna333	01/28/12 03:54 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Grmpy_Mnky	01/28/12 03:58 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/28/12 05:06 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	labug	01/28/12 05:07 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	labug	01/28/12 05:17 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	keep_going	01/28/12 06:10 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/28/12 06:48 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/28/12 10:56 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/28/12 11:44 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	sayitaintso	01/28/12 11:54 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	keep_going	01/29/12 12:10 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/29/12 12:20 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/29/12 02:31 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Jenna333	01/29/12 02:40 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/29/12 02:52 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	dbmod	01/31/12 12:25 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	keep_going	01/28/12 06:19 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/28/12 01:36 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BklynMom	01/28/12 01:42 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	kolja	01/22/12 04:02 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/22/12 04:13 AM

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