Fellow DBers, as my temporary-arrangements court hearing approaches next week, I find myself wrestling over and over with issues that have come up since my W and I S. I am asking for your thoughts (I know there are no silver bullets, I am simply looking for feedback/other perspectives):
-W says I have made significant changes and if I had made them a year ago she wouldn't have filed but now it's too late. -W says she doesn't trust that my changes will continue but doesn't want to put the D on hold for a few months to find out. -W says she gave the old me too many chances, concedes that she hasn't given the new me any chances but will not. -W says she is "over" my mistakes of the past but any time the M comes up she brings up the past. -W says she does not want to take the risk of losing any more of her life to a bad M but acknowledges that things between us have never been better. (IMO, this line of thinking is our biggest obstacle to reconciliation.)
Recently, I have made my best showing at avoiding M/R talk. In my mind I accepting that I will be a single dad and I am practing that. My guess is that next week's court hearing will prompt some R conversation but I do not know.
Thanks in advance to anyone willing to share your thoughts.
