I'm so glad that the advice you've gotten so far has been helpful to you. It is overwhelming at times and this place can be grounding.
Your W's IC sounds awful. It is so unfortunate when they listen to someone like that, it doesn't help the M in any way. Years ago my H and I went to a MC who after 2 visits told us to divorce, there was no hope for us. It is why he doesn't believe in MC to this day. That MC has since remarried, and is a devout Christian and has a very different outlook on things. It just goes to show that they are human and can change their view just like any of us can. A degree in psychology does not mean they have all of the answers.
I honestly think this place and the DB books is the most helpful tools that I have found yet.
