Done lurking, need advice.

[Grmpy_Mnky]

Wow!

First-off thanks so much for all the advice. It is all useful. Secondly I must admit, before I came to this site, I had certain stigma attached to folks that"freaked" during relationship issues. Now I am here freaking and ALL of you have become a very important part of my daily routine and my life - for that I say thanks from the bottom of my little three-chambered heart (btw - i realize we have four).

Now, when I posted yesterday I meant what I said - my W said it was over and I believed her beyond any doubt or hope. Soon after Kaffe posted follwed by Crimson, etc... These posts were all contrary to what I had perceived in my present sitch. The posts are all, without exception, based on sound logic and the DB principles and all have merit. I am extremely grateful to have ya'll in my virtual life!

I honestly still feel its over. She was very steadfast yesterday. Only glimmer was: she asked why I could not have lost these 30 lbs while we were married (she said I looked great), she said I seem very happy and the fact that I have been silent for the past several weeks proves that we were indeed bad for one another. She told me about a few things her IC told her about our marriage - ie, that I was more than likely unfaithful becuase I had depression, that I would never change, and the ever popular life is too short to be with someone like your husband. Gotta love it!

Thanks again everybody.