NM, sometimes it takes some real "shock therapy" to get someone to straighten up for a moment, long enough to have some clarity to do something other than lie in a heap of despair. You received that shock therapy from steady.
Understand that we all have work today, even the vets. We are always works in progress. So sometimes, that "stuff" that comes out of us in the name of supporting someone else, isn't always coming from a... strong centre. We all have our bias... some more skewed then others...
What I am saying is, you are concerned because you have received information that suggests that there are few "saved" Ms.
I don't know about that. Take a look around you. Statistics say that 50% of first Ms end in divorce. Look at 10 friends (not including their partners). Are they currently M? Are they D? If 50% of Ms end in D, why would your unscientific studies suggest otherwise?
We only see a small sample, here. Those in the middle of heartbreak and turmoil. Once they leave this boad, we don't know what happens. Some don't care to relive THIS memory so don't want to come back and announce their success to R. Or don't think to.
If 50% of Ms end in D, it does not account for the other population that did NOT file D. And are simply separated... take stats here and ask yourself... how many are D? How many leave this board and are still not D?
Forget the stats. You are skewing them anyhow, because YOU are trying to save your M. Does the stats indicated anything about whether one of the spouses actually fought to save their M? What about those so called... "amicable" Ds.
Many take the advice of their well intentioned family and friends and just agree to end the M because they should just get over it and move on...
Everyone here has a fantastic chance to succeed... because they are bucking what other's want to believe is just the harsh reality...
