baby steps in the right direction.... so happy to hear you find a little conviction:

" But i am beginning to accept that I can not control H and his decisions. Just my own."

I think it's a good idea not to respond, since that's what you would normally do. (Our H's are similar. I mean they even wanted to talk about papers today! lol) they didn't like the controlling aspects of us, but then they expect us to take care of things or remind them to do something.... it's frustrating! I want to look mine in the eye and say: "You told me you hated it that I "nagged" you about reminders.... and now you're mad at me because I didn't remind you of _________... can't have it both ways!! You're a grown man, act like it!"

I'm super glad that you had a laugh today!! It's good that you can still find humor in small moments during a day that's filled with cr@p.... keep focusing on *those* instances!

You WILL make it out of this, especially if you can create more days like this one smile

M-31, H-31
T-9, M-7
S-6, s-20mth
sep 8/1/11
ILYNILWY 11/29/11
Creating separation papers.
Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12
H moves out 1.20.12