Thanks for the feedback guys, I really appreciate it. I am happy with the way I handled this, obviously she never responded to my note nor do I expect her to. I thought of some other things about my W that I have yet to report that are probably important.
Her childhood was really rough, her parents divorced at an early age, and her mother as I said has been married 6 times I think and really was never there for her/her sisters. She had significant issues with her stepmom, and her dad and stepmom's realationship was really messed up. She was effectively left to run wild as a child, and ended up getting beaten up violently on multiple occasions by the father of her first child - a "boyfriend" of sorts I guess at one time, who ended up knocking her up at 14 years old. She said she was "raped", I don't know in what sense of the word, but I surmise that it was "statuatory rape" versus she was physically held down and raped since this guy was her "boyfriend". I just never thought it a good idea to ask details about this. This guy is currently lockup up slated for release in 2021 I think for shooting somebody in the back during a robbery atttempt. I'm sure he'll eventually come looking for his son.
Now fast forward to her first marriage, her first husband was a total deadbeat, and in the end he started messing around with her step-sister and they are now engaged to be married. For some reason I never made it to the extended family holiday functions on her side... As her ex-husband is there! This loser has four children by three different women at this point (two by my wife, one by another woman, and one by my wife's step-sister), hasn't contibuted a dime one to his children aside from when he had them every other weekend, since I married her. Real Jerry Springer content here right? And I knew all of this going in, but I love this woman so much I still married and I still do and want her back!
So in summary, she has had a really messed up life, and aside from her children I certainly think I am the best thing that ever happened to her... I did things for her and took her places that she had only dreamed of. And in the end the thanks I get is getting put in Jail.
Man writing all of this down is very therapeutic, but at the same time I have to step back and say, dude really, what were you thinking??? As we all know love is a crazy, crazy thing...
Thanks again for you guys feedback and kind words it means a lot.
me 38 W 30 T 3 M in 05/2010 Separated 08/2011 Stephchildren (all hers) SS17, SS12, SD8 I filed 8/27, she countered I filed response 9/5 Anxiously waiting on the judge!