Doing any stalking? Drive by's? A. Nope I don't do any of that. Actually we have a pretty good relationship since I stopped pursuing her. She has the key to my apartment and I have access to house if needed I just txt her. I'm getting a little better at not obsessing over the R. It is hard because I literally see her every day even though we are S. To keep things "normal" for the kids I put my son on the bus everyday for school etc.
Why are you really doing all of that? Maybe to impress the W?
A. No I'm doing it to keep my racing mind busy. I don't even think she knows I do it.
Do you still peak at her FB.
A. I can't. It is completely locked down even if I wanted to. But because we had so many mutual friends and it gave me high anxiety and is actually a big reason why we have so much damage in our marriage I decided to delete it.
Seems like you worked your ass off Steady to get the end result you didn't want. I guess that is what I fear. I just have to take the attitude of saying "at least I gave it my all and never gave up"
New to the forum but just doesn't seem like a lot of happy endings on here.
I can appreciate the comment that you made about not caring which way the relationship goes. Funny thing is my W actually told me that in a round about way when I was still at home. She said maybe if you stopped caring so much things would get better.
I've learned a ton about myself the last 4 weeks and even more about myself today. Thanks again for the reply
