Oh, right Crimson. Didn't remember that the D was actually on the go.
Since we're on this and here in Mnky's thread, since it can help both (and I also posted this just now on NM's thread)...
The LBS often looses sight of the DB principles that LRT and dark for example, are temporary actions.
But ALSO, it is ACTION not words that will show our WAS's the changes in us and cause the WAS to question. They will rarely believe our words.
Crimson, I think what's going on in your sitch... the reason the letter worked for you, is that you actually planted the bamboo seed much earlier and your W was already having cognitive dissonance NOT because of the LRT, but because she was noticing your actions. The words (the letter) just verbalized to her that what she was seeing was something intentionally and correct.
Keep the positive changes going. The WASs notice... and they can change their minds.
I think it's 25 or someone else, can't remember that quotes statistics about how 1/3 of all D's filed in Cal expire due to inactivity.
