very interesting report on W. here is a so called "truism" on relationships: "if you change, she can't not change - it's literally impossible". it could be your taking initiative and doing new things has rubbed off on your W. either way, i see it as only a positive that you are both doing new things. i hope you keep it up. keep her and yourself confused!
i know it's very hard to avoid the parlor game of what W's family phone calls mean. as MWD (michelle weiner-davis) says in one of her books, it's so easy to speculate and be wrong. and sometimes those speculations infuse your interactions in a counter-productive way.
what does help is to look at what you can observe first hand, and that is why interactions with W are so useful to talk about here, especially atypical interactions, even more especially atypical interactions that start showing a trend.
shuffle, turn-over, ventilate, experiment, hone in on some of those things that really feel right. that's what you are doing so it must be part of who you are.
