I am going to look for a job (which is what H wanted me to do anyways).
Word of advice here - please talk to a lawyer first.
I don't know all of your sitch, but the reason your H is dragging his feet and wanted you to get a job is simple - he will owe less in alimony and child support if you are working!
You have three little ones and unless you have some really high-paying job skills, the cost of childcare is going to negate most of your earnings. Please discuss all your financial options with an attorney. Yes, you will probably have to get a job, but don't shoot yourself in the foot by taking a job that is not sustainable, and then getting less support than you need and deserve.
