Got the D papers today. STBX wants to "reserve maintenance" fro eight years. WTF?

Reading the Journeay from Abandonment to Healing. Good read for the most part. One of the 5 stages is RAGE, meaning being mad at your former partner and your situation. I missed this stage, and have only felt overwhelming sadness. Not meant to be this way. Not sure what that means.


H 51, W 46
no kids
T 22 years
M 17 years
ILBNILWY 2/10
1st D talk 6/10
partial recovery
W files D 5/11
long distance separation 8/11
moving forward on D 10/11
legal separation complete 1/2012