Too Little, Too Late.... part 4

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Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4 purgatory #2215825 01/25/12 09:44 PM
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25yearsmlc Member 2 Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 13,511 Likes: 1 CA- now East coast	purgatory I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL about not being able to turn the "OFF" button for obessing. I'm one of 9 kids and have 3 sisters. 2 of them divorced about 5 years apart and reacted in vastly different ways. My older sister was the epitome of grace and honor under fire. Her h was always a taker, she was always the giver. Worked full time and put him thru law school and raised their 3 kids. He left her after 22 years for OW... Today, that sister is remarried to a man who "gets" her. He is a giver and so is she and I can honestly say she is happier now than she could possibly have been with her first h...(btw, her ex h married someone HE refers to as "high maintenance" and she sure is...so karma is real I guess...) (Is it wrong that I'm happy about that? Probably, but who said I was perfect?) The younger sister, J, who divorced, circled the drain for 3 YEARS of wondering "WHY he chose OW" and how much she hurt b/c she loved him SO MUCH and blah blah blah...sorry but she wallowed in her victimhood and attracted nothing good for those 3 years. When my older sister told me I had "started to sound like J" I almost hung up the phone. But she was right. So I snapped out of it for a minute and let it get me to figuratively slap my face and saying my mantras and "this pain is NOT fatal or eternal and I will survive & thrive when I AM READY...(which is getting to be real soon") You will get better at this. It hasn't been that long... Coming here helps IF you take some of the advice you get here. And I know you do. (There are some who want to vent and only vent...and they get stuck...like my sister J...and btw, I don't think she's truly examined her role in the demise of her first m. She just thinks "oh he left me for OW"... like her gaining 60lbs...no kids, no job and no further schooling beyond college--only actual "housewife" I ever knew...so she wasn't bringing a lot to the table. She won't dig deep b/c she's afraid that deep down, under all the layers of being funny and smart, is that she's NOT a lovable person. This is a lie but I think it's what she fears... Finally she was broke and decided to go back to school and got her RN and is working full time now. So yes She has made progress, but it just took a LONG time...too long...too long for YOU for sure. You have three kids watching you. In that sense, you're so lucky. M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 2016 X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016 = CLOSURE 4 ME Embrace the Change

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Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/21/12 11:28 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/22/12 02:22 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	labug	01/22/12 02:30 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/22/12 03:39 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/22/12 04:11 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	mr mr	01/22/12 04:24 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/22/12 04:32 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	ces67	01/22/12 06:36 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/22/12 04:28 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	WenikiTiki	01/22/12 05:09 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/22/12 07:47 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/22/12 08:13 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/22/12 08:55 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/23/12 01:12 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	JamesG	01/23/12 01:27 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/23/12 03:54 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/23/12 05:13 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Rick1963	01/23/12 10:52 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Hopeful321	01/23/12 12:45 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	ces67	01/23/12 01:17 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Crimson	01/23/12 02:13 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	stillhopin	01/23/12 08:32 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	WenikiTiki	01/23/12 11:14 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 01:52 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 02:29 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	nhmom	01/24/12 02:50 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/24/12 02:51 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 03:02 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 03:07 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/24/12 05:03 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 05:27 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/24/12 06:28 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 12:39 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/24/12 12:44 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/24/12 01:16 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	sayitaintso	01/24/12 03:28 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BklynMom	01/24/12 03:48 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Autumn Leaves	01/24/12 03:53 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Rick1963	01/24/12 04:01 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 05:44 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/24/12 06:10 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Crimson	01/24/12 06:12 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/24/12 06:15 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 07:22 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BklynMom	01/24/12 07:51 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 08:24 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/24/12 09:03 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/24/12 10:01 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/25/12 12:15 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/25/12 01:28 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/25/12 03:39 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BklynMom	01/25/12 03:52 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/25/12 04:32 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/25/12 08:04 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	ces67	01/25/12 01:50 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Jenna333	01/25/12 04:44 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/25/12 05:05 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/25/12 04:47 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Jenna333	01/25/12 05:02 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/25/12 05:07 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/25/12 07:58 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/25/12 09:44 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/25/12 09:56 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/26/12 02:15 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	nhmom	01/26/12 02:29 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/26/12 03:16 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	mr mr	01/26/12 03:23 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/26/12 03:37 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/26/12 04:54 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	WenikiTiki	01/26/12 07:17 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/26/12 12:25 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BklynMom	01/26/12 01:18 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/26/12 01:19 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/26/12 02:30 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Jenna333	01/26/12 04:22 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/26/12 09:00 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/26/12 09:50 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/26/12 10:03 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/27/12 12:36 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/27/12 01:18 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/27/12 01:20 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/27/12 01:28 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	mr mr	01/27/12 01:59 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/27/12 03:12 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	ces67	01/27/12 12:51 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/27/12 01:33 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/27/12 01:56 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	ces67	01/27/12 02:37 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	labug	01/27/12 03:12 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/27/12 06:42 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	JamesG	01/27/12 06:47 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/27/12 10:36 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/27/12 10:54 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/27/12 11:25 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	labug	01/27/12 11:47 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/27/12 11:48 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/28/12 02:45 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	ces67	01/28/12 02:51 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/28/12 03:49 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Jenna333	01/28/12 04:13 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/28/12 04:56 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/28/12 06:12 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	labug	01/28/12 01:46 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/28/12 03:39 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Jenna333	01/28/12 03:54 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Grmpy_Mnky	01/28/12 03:58 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/28/12 05:06 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	labug	01/28/12 05:07 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	labug	01/28/12 05:17 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	keep_going	01/28/12 06:10 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/28/12 06:48 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/28/12 10:56 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/28/12 11:44 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	sayitaintso	01/28/12 11:54 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	keep_going	01/29/12 12:10 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/29/12 12:20 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/29/12 02:31 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Jenna333	01/29/12 02:40 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/29/12 02:52 AM
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Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	keep_going	01/28/12 06:19 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/28/12 01:36 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BklynMom	01/28/12 01:42 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	kolja	01/22/12 04:02 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/22/12 04:13 AM

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