My apologies in advance to NM because I do not want to hijack his thread. Ro, the LBS experiences countless highs and lows during this process. We let ourselves read into things because we remain hopeful that the M/R can be repaired. (It can be, don't lose hope.) We "argue" with our WAS about why he/she should give the M/R another shot. We beg, plead, etc. Very little of that works (and much is counter productive). IMO, it is when you stop that process and start GALing, etc., that you begin to cement the changes that you are making into the new normal for YOU. When you are working more for your well being than you are in an effort to try to reclaim your WAS, you are putting yourself in a position to begin to accept the situation for what it is and, more importantly, you are working on your next relationship: either a new M/R with your WAS built on a new foundation or one with a new person.
