Hello All,

I've been reading lots of posts before joying the boards. I too and going through the same as most.

I noticed my W making a change in her life about this time last year. Going out with co-workers every weekend. At first it was no big deal by April it really started to tick me off and threw up a red flag. That's when she broke down and stated she had been unhappy for years. Which was a surprise to me, her family, and my family. None of us would have guessed this in a million years we were the perfect family.

Once she stated her feelings I did the common stuff begging, pleeding, etc. of course that just make things worse. In early May I went to the library and fond Michelle's book and was glued to it. I realized I failed in the little things in our marriage and took my W for granted.

I decided to do the 180 and she noticed the change I thought my actions would rub off. She took notice but things got worse. She couldn't bear to be around me. She went to an extended stay motel for 2 weeks and came back home. After about 6 weeks later she decided to half hearted go to counseling the counslor recommended a separation of a month. At this time my W said D was the last thing on her mind. So I moved into a motel for the month and only seeing my son briefly during that month. Towards the end of the month while I picked up my son she gives me a letter stating she was done with our M and wanted a D.

I'm like what the hell? Where did that come from? D is the last thing on my mind to now I want one. W was finished with C and I moved back in for about a month and she gives me 10 days notice that she has placed a deposit on an apartment and was moving out.

The only problem was my name is the only one on the mortgage and now im months behind. She signed a 6 month lease and only part of her family knows about her move? We still do some family functions together which is living a lie? She seems to be happy living on her own. I plan on her signing another lease as I wonder what to do with the house. UGH!

We get along fine. Neither one of us brings up what's going on with our R. I continue to keep my head up. Some days are better than others it's been 4 months since she has left. I honestly don't believe she is even seeing anyone else either. Sometimes I wish that were the case just to have some closure.

I feel she is battling depression and at the same time going through a MLC. Lucky me smile......I also seem to think some of this stems from just meeting her father for the first time 4 years ago.

I pray daily that things will work out for me my son and for my M. I know if she goes through with a D she will regret it for the rest of her life. I wish I could help her but it appears she will have to figure it out on her own. I'm planning on a long journey ahead. The house my credit everything will be destroyed through the process which brings added pressure. At the end of the day if I can regain my family it will be worth it.

I have definatley changed for the better as a person I just hope my W comes to her senses so she can enjoy the best of me too.