A rule of thumb is wait 48 hours before responding. It gives you time to process and also ensures you aren't reacting which can either be harmful or it can otherwise be hurtful to your interests.
I don't remember, are you using the same atty? If so, then if the office said it would be sent to you, never mind your W's request to get to it. Due process my friend, let it cook on the atty's desk and in the mail. No need to rush.
Any time my W has something she wants to tell me, I have instructed her to let me know by email. It keeps a physical record of communications. Also, if she asks to meet or to get stuff to me, I choose a location that IS NOT my apartment nor my office. I have not yet given her permission to enter my personal space. I still need my privacy for emotional protection, but the border is shrinking these days...
SA is of course not D. It still doesn't mean you have to rush anything. Everything should have a deadline for you to get things processed. Take what ever time you need to check for dotted Ts and crossed Is.
In the mean time, when she's persistently attempting to contact her, nonchalantly let her know that personal communication at work is frowned upon and you also have a whole lot of "get a life" happening and will make sure to schedule her in... next Tuesday... But MAKE SURE you are GALing if you say you are.
