Oneeleven, thanks so much for posting the above you just crushed a major pain point in my brain. You are exactly right, why dwell and something and keep asking yourself questions, when even if you do breach the subject directly you're not really going to know anyway???

AHA!!! Thank You :-)

me 38
W 30
T 3
M in 05/2010
Separated 08/2011
Stephchildren (all hers) SS17, SS12, SD8
I filed 8/27, she countered I filed response 9/5
Anxiously waiting on the judge!