LITB, how’s it going man, I don’t get over here a lot these days.
My advice, focus less on if these interactions with your W are positive, negative, or indifferent. You know what they are to you, and you don’t know what they are to her. That just is, and that acceptance will make things much less complicated.
We talk about stopping the mind reading, this is good, because none of us can do it, so the attempt is really just our minds playing tricks on us. Try and step away from your mind, and view these thoughts from an outside perspective.
When our minds are doing all this thinking, this is what then makes us question how we should behave. Should I contact her? Should I act this way? Act that way? Should I do this or that? This confusion is due to these mind tricks and not focusing on what we know, but rather these stories in our head.
You know your W is in another R right now. If they have introduced the children I think we know that this is not just a casual R. You know that she is divorcing you. This isn’t meant to sound uncaring and to cause pain, but rather the opposite. Emotional pain is not caused by something outside of ourselves like these items above, but from the resistance to them. The acceptance of what is will make all of this much clearer and less painful.
With this acceptance now all you have to do is behave like the man you want to be. With your faith, your beliefs and your morals.
Take care man. Peace!
BITS
Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
