GH31 and 25 - thank you for the thoughts. GH, as much as it hurts to listen to your blunt advice, it is needed.
Since the bomb was dropped, I have tried to control the situation, and who knows had I handled this differently early on, if we could have worked it out (unfortunately found this site after the situation was dire). It is sad that in my comments, I realize I am still trying to control something that doesn't exist.
In any case, I started this thread because I posted on newcomers a few times, and since it is more active and I was being moderated, didn't really receive responses as by the time it was posted I was on the 5th page. I am going to keep this conversation going in Newcomers so as to not have duplicate threads.
