How can I bring up OM in a pro-DB fashion?

[GH31]

Yes, she was banging the OM for some time before she moved out and on a deeper level you already know this to be true.

Do you want her back?

What is your desired outcome from bringing up OM?

Do you think you may have been emotionally absent from the marriage or do you know that you were?

Statistically that relationship that she is now in has probability of thriving at just over 0%.

I am not looking to shame her or throw this in her face,

What are you trying to do then?

but think that maybe addressing it head on may actually open up conversation?

You would start up a conversation. What kind of conversation do you think you would start up?

Right now, we don't see each other or talk to each other as there are no children giving us an excuse to do so, so she cannot see any changes I am making.

Has she tried reaching out to you at all? Have you gone completely dark? Any contact from her? Anything?

I am just avoiding getting her to address this and just giving her an easy out.

What are you trying to "get her" to do? She is already gone brother.

Months ago.

Are you just trying to get her to "own up to the truth"? If she is cheating still then the odds of her doing that are a little less than zero. I've never heard of one cheater who told the truth.

My suggestion to you would be to GAL as much as you possibly can, go out and have as much fun as possible and enrich your life as much as possible.

You're still trying to manipulate an outcome with your wife. You cannot "get her" to do anything and you must accept this, whatever becomes of your marriage.

Good luck.

GH31