W racing to finish line - do I bring up OM?

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BL,

I would not recommend confronting your W. I did that with my H and it backfired and just pushed him closer to OW. (At the time I was pregnant. I confronted him in anger, trying to show him how wrong he was, being judgemental, etc. You name it. No matter how I justified it, the truth is that I just wanted to be right because I was so mad at him. A few days after our son was born, he told me he had made a decision to pursue a serious R with OW. That was last July and they are going strong.

I also would highly recommend not exposing her with OTHERS. I told my H's sisters and it also backfired. When H found out, he accused me of trying to put him in a bad light with them and trying to destroy his R with OW. He was VERY angry and has pushed him further away from me and closer to OW.

You can read a lot more about exposing and confronting in the infidelity thread. You will see numerous examples of how this has NOT worked out for a lot of us on this forum.

I know this is very hard, but try not to think about them. Concentrate on YOU. The things that were wrong with you in your R. Because even if there was no OM in the picture, the issues in your M will still be there. Work on those, work on you.

Good luck!