Too Little, Too Late.... part 4

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Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4 purgatory #2215709 01/25/12 05:07 PM
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25yearsmlc Member 2 Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 13,511 Likes: 1 CA- now East coast	Your earlier interaction with him was excellent. It's interesting that XBF did not tell him of your gift...gee, I'm SURE it was an oversight...what a hosebag. So now HE knows? Good...but enough of the overt kindness to her, puhlease! Be dignified and hold your head high, but don't reach out. SHE is cake eating...or in her mind she is...but, NEVER MIND THEM... well done-- NOTE--all these events that so enrage you BUT which you handle in a new way are evidence of real change in you. They are opportunities...remember that. Originally Posted By: purgatory I'm breathing.... Trying to remain calm.... I called H at work to let him know about the doctor appointment this morning, he didn't answer. I text him to call when he had a chance- he called 5 minutes later from his cell. It was completely quiet in the background, and. I car noise either- my mind started wondering here he was in the middle of the day. I didn't ask the question I wanted to ask: where are you? that was really hard. this^^^ is pure Obsessing. Best cure for that is your new mantras and GAL...and don't tell me how hard it is with a baby and a 6 y/o. I gave birth 6 weeks after landing in the tundra and I got a life when the baby was about 14 months...and winters there are frickin' "life threateningly cold" (that was on the newspaper there once and I cut it out...I wanted proof I had actually lived in a place that was colder than outerspace... What are the mantras you are telling yourself? Do you have that gadget for your Ipod that you can speak into? I had a 2 minute pep talk for myself recorded made up of several DB phrases and my own that I'd listen to when feeling out of control... and don't forget, most of all, you CAN turn this over to the Big Guy upstairs...I have rarely leaned on Him as much as I did then. Kinda feel guilty that I don't go as much now that I feel better...(geez, talk about Not being grateful enough...come to think of it, I'll go again this week just for that.) I relayed to appointment to him, and he's going to have to adjust his normal plans for this evening (which means not going over to OW's house!) but I'm sure they'll be on the phone all night while I gone. Grrrrre See? This^^ is more obsessing and you've made it so that 1) he MUST be seeing her in the day and 2) will see her tonight or would have and 3) if not, then he'll be talking to her all night... you negatively projected scenarios for all three events...STOP IT... I still really want to know where he was at when he called!! I know I'm not supposed to ask, and he's even said that I don't have the right to know about his private life anymore.... This is really hard for me to do. (it's kinda pathetic!!) (Sigh) See above posts...and since HE has told you it's not your business...you have your answer. Meaning, do NOT ask him, period. Ever... but don't be where HE can reach you at all times either. Seriously...GAL!!! Get some mystery...ask someone else to watch the kids some evening and go OUT with a new friend or by yourself..whatever...(get cash from the ATM unless you want him to know you bought a dinner somewhere) Ok, had to get that out of my system ^^^Good...understood... don't underestimate the value of that workshop I told you about. IF anything would "fix" you, it's that...you're so ripe for change b/c you are at a crossroads...but you still don't quite know HOW to BE the new you. But you can learn...and that's your task. M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 2016 X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016 = CLOSURE 4 ME Embrace the Change

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Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/21/12 11:28 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/22/12 02:22 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	labug	01/22/12 02:30 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/22/12 03:39 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/22/12 04:11 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	mr mr	01/22/12 04:24 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/22/12 04:32 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	ces67	01/22/12 06:36 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/22/12 04:28 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	WenikiTiki	01/22/12 05:09 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/22/12 07:47 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/22/12 08:13 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/22/12 08:55 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/23/12 01:12 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	JamesG	01/23/12 01:27 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/23/12 03:54 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/23/12 05:13 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Rick1963	01/23/12 10:52 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Hopeful321	01/23/12 12:45 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	ces67	01/23/12 01:17 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Crimson	01/23/12 02:13 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	stillhopin	01/23/12 08:32 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	WenikiTiki	01/23/12 11:14 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 01:52 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 02:29 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	nhmom	01/24/12 02:50 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/24/12 02:51 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 03:02 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 03:07 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/24/12 05:03 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 05:27 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/24/12 06:28 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 12:39 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/24/12 12:44 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/24/12 01:16 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	sayitaintso	01/24/12 03:28 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BklynMom	01/24/12 03:48 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Autumn Leaves	01/24/12 03:53 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Rick1963	01/24/12 04:01 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 05:44 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/24/12 06:10 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Crimson	01/24/12 06:12 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/24/12 06:15 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 07:22 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BklynMom	01/24/12 07:51 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 08:24 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/24/12 09:03 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/24/12 10:01 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/25/12 12:15 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/25/12 01:28 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/25/12 03:39 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BklynMom	01/25/12 03:52 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/25/12 04:32 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/25/12 08:04 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	ces67	01/25/12 01:50 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Jenna333	01/25/12 04:44 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/25/12 05:05 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/25/12 04:47 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Jenna333	01/25/12 05:02 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/25/12 05:07 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/25/12 07:58 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/25/12 09:44 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/25/12 09:56 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/26/12 02:15 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	nhmom	01/26/12 02:29 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/26/12 03:16 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	mr mr	01/26/12 03:23 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/26/12 03:37 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/26/12 04:54 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	WenikiTiki	01/26/12 07:17 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/26/12 12:25 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BklynMom	01/26/12 01:18 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/26/12 01:19 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/26/12 02:30 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Jenna333	01/26/12 04:22 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/26/12 09:00 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/26/12 09:50 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/26/12 10:03 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/27/12 12:36 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/27/12 01:18 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/27/12 01:20 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/27/12 01:28 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	mr mr	01/27/12 01:59 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/27/12 03:12 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	ces67	01/27/12 12:51 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/27/12 01:33 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/27/12 01:56 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	ces67	01/27/12 02:37 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	labug	01/27/12 03:12 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/27/12 06:42 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	JamesG	01/27/12 06:47 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/27/12 10:36 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/27/12 10:54 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/27/12 11:25 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	labug	01/27/12 11:47 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/27/12 11:48 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/28/12 02:45 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	ces67	01/28/12 02:51 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/28/12 03:49 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Jenna333	01/28/12 04:13 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/28/12 04:56 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/28/12 06:12 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	labug	01/28/12 01:46 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/28/12 03:39 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Jenna333	01/28/12 03:54 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Grmpy_Mnky	01/28/12 03:58 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/28/12 05:06 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	labug	01/28/12 05:07 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	labug	01/28/12 05:17 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	keep_going	01/28/12 06:10 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/28/12 06:48 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/28/12 10:56 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/28/12 11:44 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	sayitaintso	01/28/12 11:54 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	keep_going	01/29/12 12:10 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/29/12 12:20 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/29/12 02:31 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Jenna333	01/29/12 02:40 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/29/12 02:52 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	dbmod	01/31/12 12:25 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	keep_going	01/28/12 06:19 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/28/12 01:36 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BklynMom	01/28/12 01:42 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	kolja	01/22/12 04:02 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/22/12 04:13 AM

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