Too Little, Too Late.... part 4

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Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4 ces67 #2215696 01/25/12 04:44 PM
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Jenna333 Member J Joined: Dec 2011 Posts: 322	All caught up! I so feel for you, Pur. I think it's disgusting what your H and your ex-BFF are doing I wish I could give you a big hug! As you saw from my thread, acting 'as-if' is the best thing you can do. GAL, as-if, and detaching. I don't think anything you can do anytime soon will stop your H and OW, so as hard as it is, try to push those thoughts of them out of your mind. I have a particular dislike (nicer word than I'd like to use) for cake-eaters through dealing with one myself. It probably goes against DBing, but I wouldn't allow your H to cook his meals at YOUR home anymore. He shouldn't be there so often. Mine didn't start snapping out of it until I pulled the comfort and reality of ME, someone who loves him and knows him, away from him. He may not even be snapping out of it, though. It may be that he's freaking out because he feels the control slipping through his fingers. Take the control away! Right now your H knows that he can fantasize about something new while you're waiting for him. He can't think you're waiting for him, IMO. He needs to face reality. And reality is that you truly won't be waiting for him forever. I know it feels that way now, but you will wake up one day and realize that you deserve better. You do, Pur. No matter what you did during the relationship, he messed up, too, and HE walked away from you and your family that you created together. He has no motivation to come back if he knows that you're not getting on with your life. I can tell that you're a wonderful person. Show him what he'll be missing, but do it for you. I've become a much stronger and as crazy as it sounds, happier person throughout all of this. One day you may realize that this 'alien' may be your husband after all and that there's a wonderful man out there looking for you right now that will treat you how you deserve to be treated. It takes guts and a big heart to fight for your R alone, against all odds. I'm proud of you for facing this. You have so much going on. I'm here for/with you, love! M & H 25 T 9 D 7 S 4 Bomb 11/11 Confused about feelings for me. Bomb 12/11 ILYBNILWY, moved out 2-1-12 We're exclusive & dating each other. 3-4-12 H moved back in. 3-31-12 I deserve better. I'm done

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Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/21/12 11:28 PM
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Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	labug	01/22/12 02:30 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/22/12 03:39 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/22/12 04:11 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	mr mr	01/22/12 04:24 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/22/12 04:32 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	ces67	01/22/12 06:36 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/22/12 04:28 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	WenikiTiki	01/22/12 05:09 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/22/12 07:47 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/22/12 08:13 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/22/12 08:55 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/23/12 01:12 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	JamesG	01/23/12 01:27 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/23/12 03:54 AM
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Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Rick1963	01/23/12 10:52 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Hopeful321	01/23/12 12:45 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	ces67	01/23/12 01:17 PM
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Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	stillhopin	01/23/12 08:32 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	WenikiTiki	01/23/12 11:14 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 01:52 AM
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Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	nhmom	01/24/12 02:50 AM
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Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BklynMom	01/25/12 03:52 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/25/12 04:32 AM
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Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Jenna333	01/25/12 04:44 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/25/12 05:05 PM
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Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Jenna333	01/28/12 04:13 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/28/12 04:56 AM
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