I went mountain biking this morning...did 37 miles in the woods. My youngest daughter texted me and asked me to come get her when I got back. I did, and she wanted me to take her 'driving'....she's barely 15. I let her drive my truck for an hour and a half. Then she wanted to go visit some of my family.....and later she wanted to go back to my house, where we played air hocky and watched TV. We spent about 7 hours together before she left. It was a good day.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
Savor this....were you able to celebrate this and be in the moment? (Or were you constantly wondering if tomorrow would be bad or recalling the past?)
Learn to be here now and enjoy them when you are with them.
This is a great event in your life Antlers...really!
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
That is wonderful! Glad to hear she is reaching out to you. Slowly, but surely.....don't push!
G - That's crazy! Of course, I learned to drive on the streets and freeways of Southern California which are very treacherous. I can imagine NYC is worse though. It just seems so much more compacted to me.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
I rode trails this morning on my mountain bike with a friend. Youngest daughter texted me and asked if I'd pick her up from school and take her and two of her friends to lunch. I did, and they wanted to go to Sonic. We only had an hour before they had to be back at school, but my daughter was nice and appreciative...and I met her two friends. It was short, but good and enjoyable. After I got back, I hooked up with 3 others and we took a long road ride on our road bikes this afternoon. Rode trails with a friend AND road with friends today, plus had lunch with my daughter. It turned out to be a good day.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
Antlers, I remember you from when I was on the boards a couple of years ago, just read through your thread to get a bit caught up and a couple of things came to mind... 1) From day one, you have 'owned' your shortcomings, and I see how much you've grown since then. 2) I'm sorry your M could not be saved, I know that would have been your first choice. 3) You are a man of God, and that is to be admired. 4) I hear a bit of pursuing when it comes to the kids. I struggle with this at times, too. I'm co-dependent, and have to work hard at having good boundaries. 5) If you've only been working at 'letting go' of your M since October, it may take a little more time. You may have to fake it 'til you make it. OR perhaps the holidays just had you in a bit of a funk. 6) On the GAL and 180's, stop using the word Try. I'm from Oregon, where we just do it. Your story always intrigued me, since I was the WAW on the other side of the same type of sitch. Forgiveness is a giant issue that we are addressing now in MC.
Me:44, WAW hx bi-polar H:48, hx of abuse S:22, S:19, D:16 Filed Oct 08, dismissed Filed again Jan 10, dismissed Now Piecing alter persona: SuperBoots
Hi goldeylox. Thank you for posting. I truly have been working at letting go and moving forward just since Halloween. It wasn't a holiday funk. Forgiveness has been the biggest thing. It, more than anything else I've done, has helped me. There are still struggles...but God willing, I'll continue to get better. I appreciate your comments and wish you luck in MC.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
