I think you are actually doing great. It's normal to freak out a little, but your actions actually show a healthy boundary. She reacted to you filing, now she's testing you. As a man you have to make a decision and once you make that decision, you have to follow through.
You validate her feelings by accepting her decision as it is her choice and then completely moving the opposite direction. If you were controlling, you demonstrate letting go; by doing your 180's, you better yourself; your actions show strength and purpose, if you stop, she will justify her choice. I think you need to follow through with your first action. But you need to move slowly. Your
