I see you've also posted the exact same post as your original post above in a different part of the forum. It is best to keep your posts to a single thread, especially at this time of your membership here, as it keeps everyone on the same page. Plus, the newcomers area is more read so you will get more possible responses.
Also, please understand that this is not a quick fix. This is a slow process that is likely to take months or even years to get your M back on track. Doing something for a few days does not make permanent results. If you are not consistent with something for at least 2 weeks, it is much less likely to work, as it isn't believable and doesn't "stick".
When your W opens up and talks to you, as was posted above in more colourful language, keep your mouth shut and listen. Also, validate. That means saying things like, "I understand how you could feel that way." Nothing more. Unless your W asks you a question, to which you answer as directly and concisely as possible with the least number of words. Two ears, one mouth. That means listen twice as much as you talk.
Finally, if you are doing the LRT (which is probably a good idea) then please read again and again the 37 "rules" posted above in your thread. These are the things you should be living and breathing by for at least the next two weeks.
In the mean time, keep posting and try to look for the positives and keep up your PMA (positive mental attitude).
