I don't think there is anyone here who would say get a loan against your vehicle or sell something you are relying on for your day-to-day life when techniques you can use to improve your relationship are right here on the board. The advice you get from any one poster is not expert advice, however, ALL of Michele's techniques from her years of research are right here on this board--and in Divorce Remedy, Divorce Busting, Keeping Love Alive and all of her works.
Work through the exercises in the Keeping Love Alive forum or the Divorce Remedy 7 steps.
Read the stories of those who have been successful. They are all over the board, and it doesn't matter if it's an old story or a new story, what matters is HOW. The principles are the same throughout:
1) What you focus on expands---focus on the things that are good.
If it isn't broke, don't fix it...keep doing what's working.
2) Immediately STOP DOING the things that aren't working for you. If they didn't work in the past, if your spouse isn't happy about it, it isn't likely to EVER work for you, no matter how much it makes sense to you.
What is your spouse's stereotype of you? Do the complete OPPOSITE, and make it a lifetime change (a '180').
Are you going down a CHEESELESS TUNNEL? (Do you keep going through the same old same old drama's with the same old same old results? STOP IT Do you have the same old arguments?
Change ANYTHING...the where, the when, the how.... read up...
Read 'The Last Resort Technique' to learn HOW to give up over-pursuing...
One caveat.... The Last Resort Technique can let your spouse remember the love....it DOES NOT rebuild your skillset alone....you need to use this time to:
center/reclaim yourself begin to BUILD YOUR RELATIONSHIP SKILLSET (you often practice this in your job or with your family members while you are 'on your own') let your spouse miss you
There is LOTS of hope...we are rooting for you, we believe in you, we are counting on you.
