Thank you for sharing your experience with OP. Your explanation of things makes sense and I need to keep reminding myself that.
H definitely seems like he's been taken over by something. The "slow and steady" part is hard for an impatient person like me, but I'm sure I will come out a better person in the end if I find a way to get through all of this.
At least work seems to have gotten busier lately and it helps to have a distraction so that I don't have to spend the whole day thinking about what's happening. There are actually times throughout the day when I "forget" everything, but then I remember again.