One more question if I may 25yearsmlc, in LuckyLukes Upstairs/Downstairs post you posted a bunch of tips on what not do do when the Bomb is dropped. Not sure if you are referring to GAL things (which I suggest for nearly ALL LBSers)
or if you mean the type of 180s for him. I do NOT see your sitch and his as being alike...
in fact you seem close to the opposite, so your approach would vary. You are not being cast aside by your wife for being too weak, but she feels you are too controlling.
You seem to think she's got a valid point...so what are you doing about THAT?
I find myself doing some of those but we're talking about working this out, not working apart at the moment so not sure how far to go with some of that stuff. Like texting. W was getting several texts a day from OG, now nothing, I sort of feel like I should fill in the hole a bit here but not sure how far to go.
she had unmet needs...and yes, it is your job, at some point, to fill them.
But Does she feel pressured by you? I don't get that impression, but maybe??
What I think of when a woman tells her h that she misses OM's attention
is that she's saying she needs more from you than you are giving.
Why not go to her work and take her out to lunch, send flowers to her (yes, at work) and such?
Look your best absolutely. Court her...
Make sure you do something positive for her on Valentine's Day and IMO (maybe others will weigh in differently)
but IMO, the more "public" it is (like at work) the happier most women are...it validates their choice of mate and says to the world, "we're still TOGETHER & not afraid to show it"...etc
Just some suggestions.
And btw, What were you like when you dated? When she fell in love with you, how were you different than you are now?
Can you be that guy again?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
