Coming back together is tough but there are hugs. I've forgiven her but not getting a sense of gravity/remorse from her,
please do NOT expect this^^^ soon...IF ever. She may well have felt you pushed her into his arms and may blame YOU for the affair. She definitely felt justified. So don't forget that.
You are getting more than most men get here; ie., a 2nd chance. Don't blow it b/c you don't think she's expressing enough remorse...
And don't mindread...
just work on YOU and YOUR Stuff.
Stay in your sandbox and out of hers. Make sense?
she was so happy with him and unhappy with me and she's still churning it all over. She told me today how she's missing that attention. this^^ is valuable data, as I've said before. She out & out TOLD you...have you read "The Five Love Languages" yet? Please do - I suggest it for all couples.
I want to write her a love letter. I don't have the books yet, don't know if this is a good idea.
So let go of waiting for remorse from her --or it being expressed to you. She's got inner conflicts she's working on now...some "uneasy truces" that have to be resolved, with time.
She's going through a lot right now and the worst thing to do is make her feel she made the wrong choice to stay.
Keep the road home, paved and smooth. For you, do "the math" and remember
Consistent change + sufficient time = changes she can believe in.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
