jigsaw puzzle it is! i still urge you to get out and take the occasional walk and break the claustrophobic atmosphere a bit. you might find even a 10 to 15 minute walk can really keep you on your game and allow you to collect your feelings and hold together.
and yes, why not do jigsaw puzzles?
ok - here's my thought on his texting and communication. and it's based on the premise that his relationship with the OW is essentially out in the open. you might say something like this: "H, at this point i have nothing to gain from trying to control or monitor who you communicate with. you have complete power to do what you want and i have to accept that. i also hope that you can understand that the thought of some of those communications can be hurtful to me. for that reason i would like to ask you to keep that in mind and be considerate about when and where you do this."
how does that sound to you? i can explain the rationale if you want, but it might also be self-explanatory.
