CAUGHT HIM IN HIS LIE!

[MynameisMZ]

Let me clarify....quickly....that I did all of that BEFORE I found DB.

In counseling and subsequent discussions with my H, it was my going after him that was my 180! I can get into all the psychology of the whole A from both our pasts, it's not important here.

I really do believe it was a catalyst for change in my situation. In no way did I ever wish to imply or advise anyone else to do it. That is why I capitalized MYSELF.

I was very clear that I was not going to stay in a M where my H was having an A. With that decision made for myself, I made the moves I made.

I do feel badly about using his best friend at work to confide in. I have made amends there.

I had a life, that was part of the problem, I was TOO independent...enough about me. Abbey!