H has gotten even MORE distant) – is this normal (for things to seemingly get worse before they get better?
Things must get worse before they get better. it is part of the script.
Originally Posted By: mncwng
Cadet: From my preliminary googling on masked depression, it seems that masked depression is depression that manifests itself in physical ailments? Or am i missing something? He hasn’t seemed to have any more physical ailments than before. I tried doing a board search, but it says that i can’t access the search engine
I saw what you were looikg at on e-how and my suggestion is that is not all there is to it. COVERT DEPRESSION is another form of masked depression and might help you understand it a little better. Another words everything seems happy and wonderful but looking beneath the surface it is not.
Yes his mother passing away is part of this problem. Even more so the question might be how much are you like his mother or the opposite of his mother.
As far as the search engine here on DB, it does not work properly. Google is much better to find anything even here on DB.
We are not allowed to post outside links here as it violates the TOS, so it is up to you to do your own research.
However there are many DB links on MLC on the board.
Hope this helps.
thanks so much for your perspective on this and the reassurance that its normal for things to possibly get worse before things can get better. your suggestion to look up covert depression seems like that could definitely be a real possibility. h definitely has mentioned being depressed a few months ago though he thinks hes gotten out of that. what he still seems to have a lot of is resentment and anger (most of it directed at me).
regarding your question on how much like his mother i am, i do remember him saying in the past that one of the reasons he loved me was because i was caring and loving like his mother was. i know that in the past he and his mother were especially close and that he loved her deeply. however, now, during this phase, he looks back on his dynamic with his mom and seems to almost suppress all the good things he felt for his mom and just remembers the times he felt burdened by her and her emotional needs. i guess part of that transferred to me as well.
any more insights you may have regarding how being similar/opposite to his mom and how that would translate to his perception of me during this mlc time would be appreciated.
