Husband Left...Part 4

[NTX_Dad]

Have you visited with a counselor? I was going weekly (down to ever other week now) and my psychologist has been VERY helpful. I am becoming a better man and I am also learning about people in general. I think I will probably always go now the rest of my life, even just once a month for a "tune up".

[Hopeful321]

Received an email from my H a moments ago.

know we said we wouldn't e/m anymore, but this is just too long and if I wait to talk to you, I'll forget.

I'm scared. I do feel like we have turned the corner and are now heading towards each other instead of away from each other. Honestly, I don't know if we are miles apart, or closer than we think, but all that matters is we are heading in the right direction, now.

But, BIG but, I am so scared b/c I think of this like when I bought the house on Martin. I knew I was doing it for the wrong reasons and even said, "I'm afraid I'm buying this house just to buy a house". Well...I know I need to trust my feelings, but I worry that I'm heading back to you b/c in my heart I never wanted to leave and I know that us, the family unit is the most important thing in not only Bella's life, but ours also. But, it crosses my mind, am I coming back just to make things easier?

I'm pretty sure I'm not for that reason, I'm just "thinking out loud" and thought I'd get it down on paper. Sorry for rambling...



I don't know how to respond to this. Can someone help me?

Thanks

[Rick1963]

Don't respond yet. Wait until someone with more experience chimes in. Wow.

[Hopeful321]

I will. Thanks.

[RoRoinMD]

I am also interested in hearing what the advice would be for a letter like this. My H and I are nowhere near here, but like Rick said - WOW!

[BklynMom]

Here's my response - take what you like

"I understand how scared you are. I think you are correct and we are headed in the right direction. We just need to go slow and at our own pace.

It is important that we both learn to trust our feelings. I am glad that you are able to share with me your fears of coming home just to make it easier. I worry about that as well and want us to be a family unit not just to make D life better.

You can always think out loud to me. So glad you shared this"

[Hopeful321]

Love it!

[BklynMom]

It makes me so happy that you liked it. I am smiling. Hee hee.

Big Hugs

[Hopeful321]

You know, I can give people advice, but I can't seem to take my own advice. LOL.

It's the same thing here with this email.

Thanks for your help.

[Oneeleven]

You know, I can give people advice, but I can't seem to take my own advice. LOL.

It's the same thing here with this email.

Thanks for your help.

I have no advice, but I wanted to parrot others and say "WOW"!! yay

I do have a question though... how dim/dark have you been with him leading up to this email?